Tagged “gender”

we can't compete with AI boyfriends either. Or AI friends:

Soon, these "fake people" won't just be indistinguishable from real people, they’ll be better than real people - because they’ll be whatever you want them to be.

The agreeableness thing I have seen come up a few times recently. We probably prefer it, so I assume training will be biased toward it. There are times you don't want the computer to argue with you, but hyper-agreeable friends does not bode well for echo chambers.

I think this is the source of the "men at 25 at mature as women at 18" thing.

tell your friends you love them.

… in speaking to women’s groups, I have suggested that women look at men this way: If they took away their own network of intimate friends, those with whom they share their personal journey, removed their sense of instinctual guidance, concluded that they were almost wholly alone in the world, and understood that they would be defined only by standards of productivity external to them, they would then know the inner state of the average man.

—Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life, by James Hollis

Was also quoted on Austin Kleon post on a similar theme.

I think about the fact that I have two friends, grown men my own age, who, unprompted, within the last year, have told me that they loved me. And I told them I loved them back.

And on how to manage/express emotions:

With so few socially acceptable avenues for processing these emotions, it isn’t uncommon for men to find other ways of managing them. Sometimes we isolate ourselves or disassociate. We may distract ourselves, keeping busy enough that the inner world can’t catch up. Other times, we numb ourselves by drinking or using substances. When pushed too close to our emotions, unresolved grief can come out as anger.

tldr no idea