Tagged “people”

will we one day forget how to make food?

Cal Newport responding to Henrik Karlsson - publishing less often can be less viral, but writing essays is not especially viral anyway

tell your friends you love them.

… in speaking to women’s groups, I have suggested that women look at men this way: If they took away their own network of intimate friends, those with whom they share their personal journey, removed their sense of instinctual guidance, concluded that they were almost wholly alone in the world, and understood that they would be defined only by standards of productivity external to them, they would then know the inner state of the average man.

—Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life, by James Hollis

Was also quoted on Austin Kleon post on a similar theme.

I think about the fact that I have two friends, grown men my own age, who, unprompted, within the last year, have told me that they loved me. And I told them I loved them back.

And on how to manage/express emotions:

With so few socially acceptable avenues for processing these emotions, it isn’t uncommon for men to find other ways of managing them. Sometimes we isolate ourselves or disassociate. We may distract ourselves, keeping busy enough that the inner world can’t catch up. Other times, we numb ourselves by drinking or using substances. When pushed too close to our emotions, unresolved grief can come out as anger.

On underused features and growing accounts.

use lists, DM people, and "optimize for virality only at the cost of your soul"

According to one estimate, his vaccines save nearly eight million lives each year.

but you don't actually get to fuck broad social approval. you get to fuck some particular person they alone want to fuck you for some specific special reason

related

Don’t surround yourself with “smarter” people. The trick is to surround yourself with people who are free in ways you’re not.

Look at their choice of spouse, how they treat service workers, how they invest their money and their time.

Aella takes LSD

good collection of tips on focus, time management, people management, communication, learning, maintenance, estimates, planning

later mentioned on fs

How different you and your brain behave in times of extreme emotion. Makes people bad at empathising with others ("I would never do that.."), and bad at predicting or understanding their own behaviour.