Tagged “friends”

Four papers on ways to make people happier: express gratitude, give compliments, offer to help, reach out to people.

Changing norms of intimacy and love over time, and the modern shift to people who are in love want to have sex.

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I think one reason many people feel a crisis of meaning is they feel commoditized—and they are! You’re one among millions, not one in a million. Your classmates took the same courses and extracurricular activities. Your friends consume the same podcasts, books, and TV shows. Your co-workers are trained to replace you if you leave.

But we’re human beings, we do not want to be replaceable. We desperately want to be valued for who we are. Becoming disentangled from your web of mutual commitments, shared history, and collective responsibility is to be rendered into a transaction, a slave.2

We don't have a script for ending friendships. No rituals or cliches or formalities. And they usually instead just fade over time

1. Double down on your best friendships (plural added)
2. Do one thing well and watch it compound
3. An hour of thinking can save you a decade of work