Tagged “social”
If people want 'community' so much, why aren't we creating it?
Friendship orientation
Why Americans stopped hanging out
How to Walk and Talk (PDF)
Why the breakdown of the 9-5 job is making us lonelier
tldr lack of overlapping days off
How to make a lot of friends
Make it a game, host things, do things.
Interesting section is "What happens once you have a lot of friends?"
Parasociality! At the Vibe Camp
I’m moving into my own place, and I’m sad about it.
another spin: people gravitate towards being fuckable in a legible way to a broad audience
but you don't actually get to fuck broad social approval. you get to fuck some particular person they alone want to fuck you for some specific special reason
Killing Community
Young adults who embrace "lying flatism" also tend to see romantic relation
Dinner with Proust: how Alzheimer’s caregivers are pulled into their patients’ worlds
Diminishing time with family and children is replaced with more time alone
I agree that flexing the boredom muscle is good, as is finding joy in time to yourself.
But don't know if embracing solitude is the right conclusion to draw from a chart of alone time increasing over lifespan.
That you could also flex the socialising muscle, and try to buck a trend from a chart of averages.
I am already off the chart on average hours per day, so there is also that..
sparkly people and how to find them
How Loneliness Reshapes the Brain
, that treating loneliness simply by telling lonely people to go out and socialize more (the way you can treat a phobia of snakes with exposure) will often not work because it fails to address the root cause of the loneliness. In fact, a recent meta-analysis confirmed that simply providing lonely people with easier access to potential friends has no effect on subjective loneliness.
The Social Recession: By the Numbers
Willingness to look stupid
Good things to emulate in there.
Be willing to be bad at things, ask lots of questions (even if they seem obvious), trying hard at things (can mean failing lots).
How to Live Near Your Friends
- Host something regularly
- Short term stays (couple of weeks)
- Help friends get leases
- Make friends nearby
My 8 Best Techniques for Evaluating Character
Look at their choice of spouse, how they treat service workers, how they invest their money and their time.
Taming the Mammoth: Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think
The social survival mammoth - the irrational and unproductive obsession with what others think of us. It is more possible in smaller tribes, impossible in the global one.
Conversation Skills Essentials
A grand thing to get better at
Stop Talking to Each Other and Start Buying Things: Three Decades of Survival in the Desert of Social Media
A good lengthy rant of eventual downfalls of online socials
Good conversations have lots of doorknobs
On affordances in conversations, giving some direction and options and places to hold onto
Ask HN: If you used to be socially awkward and shy, how did you improve?
My boundaries as an open source developer
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