Tagged “social”

Make it a game, host things, do things.
Interesting section is "What happens once you have a lot of friends?"

but you don't actually get to fuck broad social approval. you get to fuck some particular person they alone want to fuck you for some specific special reason

I agree that flexing the boredom muscle is good, as is finding joy in time to yourself.
But don't know if embracing solitude is the right conclusion to draw from a chart of alone time increasing over lifespan.

That you could also flex the socialising muscle, and try to buck a trend from a chart of averages.

I am already off the chart on average hours per day, so there is also that..

, that treating loneliness simply by telling lonely people to go out and socialize more (the way you can treat a phobia of snakes with exposure) will often not work because it fails to address the root cause of the loneliness. In fact, a recent meta-analysis confirmed that simply providing lonely people with easier access to potential friends has no effect on subjective loneliness.

Good things to emulate in there.

Be willing to be bad at things, ask lots of questions (even if they seem obvious), trying hard at things (can mean failing lots).

• Host something regularly
• Short term stays (couple of weeks)
• Help friends get leases
• Make friends nearby

Look at their choice of spouse, how they treat service workers, how they invest their money and their time.

The social survival mammoth - the irrational and unproductive obsession with what others think of us. It is more possible in smaller tribes, impossible in the global one.

A grand thing to get better at

A good lengthy rant of eventual downfalls of online socials

On affordances in conversations, giving some direction and options and places to hold onto